Women, what's your take on the victim being blamed for domestic violence or relationship abuse? Fair or not?

Omigosh! I've never really heard about anyone not helping the vicitm and saying they deserved it. Ive been in abusive relationships before and my last one almost got me killed. I was stabbed 16 times. He is in prison now till like 2023, I wish it was forever. Never was I accused of saying it was my fault or anything like that. That's horrible. I know it is hard to get out of an abusive relationship without the right support.